BAKUNZI ABBY: Imyaka 15 irashize "nahunze" mubana banjye bakuru kandi amaherezo nishakiye amafaranga.Bashoboye kuguma mu nzu kuko nakomeje kwishyura inguzanyo yanjye.Se - uwahoze ari - yabanaga n'umuryango.
Ubu nta n'umwe mu bana banjye wifuza kugira icyo ankorera cyangwa umuryango wanjye, kandi ntibashaka kugira icyo bankorera.Ndakeka ko bumva batereranywe kuko ndi umubyeyi bashobora guhora bashingiraho.Hari icyo nakora kugirango tugarure umubano wacu?- Pennsylvania Mama wahunze
Mama mwiza: Yego, bwira abana bawe ko ugurisha inzu, ngira ngo ni iyanyu ubu.Nzi neza ko bazatangira "kuvugana" nawe ijambo rikimara kubageraho.Ukomeje kwishyura cyane kubwinzu kugirango bagire aho baba.Niba ugomba "kwiruka" uhereye kubyo bakeneye bidafite epfo na ruguru, uba ukora byose neza.Nyamuneka ureke gukoreshwa.Wakijije wenyine kandi ntugomba kumva nabi cyangwa icyaha.
BAKUNZI ABBY: Mperutse gutangira kuganira numusore kuva kera.Ndamukunda cyane.Twahabaye rimwe na rimwe umwaka wose kuko twembi dufite ibintu mubuzima bwacu tugomba kwibandaho mbere (nkindwara ya bipolar no gushaka inama).
Ibyo ari byo byose, inshuti yanjye magara yanteye ubwoba ko izankura mu buzima bwe ndamutse ntangiye umubano na we.Ku ruhande rumwe, uyu musore atuma numva meze nk'umuriro - muburyo bwiza, birumvikana.Ariko kurundi ruhande, sinshaka kubura inshuti yanjye magara.Ndimo gukora iki?- Guhitamo bigoye muri Illinois
Nshuti nziza!Wabuze ikintu cy'ingenzi mu ibaruwa yawe.Kuki inshuti yawe magara irwanya uyu muntu cyane?Afite ishyari?Ibi birashobora kuba bifitanye isano nikibazo cye?Byari bibi ubushize wari kumwe nawe?Nibihe bibi?Inshuti yawe magara irashobora kugerageza kugukiza, ariko arikanga.vugana na we.
BAKUNZI ABBY: Vuba aha inshuti yaje iwanjye.Ntanze ikawa na keke, ndabikata nshyira ku isahani.Yavuze ko icyo gihe atari ashonje, nuko ayijyana mu rugo kurya, ansaba kubipfunyika cyangwa kubishyira mu kintu.Navuze ko yego, byanze bikunze, ariko sinigeze numva ibintu nkibyo, nubwo abakiriya akenshi bafata amafunguro yariye igice murugo muri resitora.Ntabwo ndi hano, cyangwa mfite uburenganzira bwo gutungurwa nkanjye ubu?nyiricyubahiro yaratangaye.
Mukundwa Gutungurwa: Niba "utunguwe" nibyo akora, ugomba kumva neza.Inshuti zawe ni inyangamugayo.umwizere.Ashobora gukunda agatsima utanze, ariko arimo kureba uburemere bwe atekereza ko azagishyira muri firigo kugirango yongere yishimire.Sinzi amategeko yubupfura, nkurikije imigati igomba kuribwa imbere ya nyirarureshwa.
Nshuti Abby yanditswe na Abigail Van Buren, uzwi kandi ku izina rya Jeanne Phillips, akaba yararemwe na nyina, Pauline Phillips.Menyesha Nshuti Abby kuri www.DearAbby.com cyangwa agasanduku k'iposita 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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Igihe cyo kohereza: Ugushyingo-30-2022